|男性间的友谊 孤独是大家的自然状况

男性从未像女性那样开诚布公地说源于己的心里话，但无言的理解，在男性当中却非常管用，特别在保持友谊的时候。

或许男性天生就是彼此孤立的，孤独是大家的自然状况。即便成了朋友，也是无声的友谊，这使得大家能彼此独立地活着。

而一旦男性间打造起友谊，友谊本身就已说明了所有。大家的沉默，就是源于对这份情感的赏析。

The silence of men in general is overtalked about and overcriticized. To be sure, men never open up as much as women want them to, but there is a wordless understanding in which we function fairly well especially in friendships.

I believe, in fact, that most women would prefer a man to be gloomily uncommunicative than to spill his guts^{1 at the drop of a hat.}

The push for men to express their feelings presumes that we have feelings, and we do have a few, but they remain submerged, and the airing of them often violates their authenticity^2.

I am no biologist, but my guess is that the male human animal was programmed for silence. I would go so far as to argue that men were programmed to be isolated^{3 from one another and that aloneness is our natural state. Silence in male friendships is our way of being alone with each other.}

once men have established a friendship that itself is the word. The affection is obvious, at least to us. A main component^{4 of our silence is an appreciation5 of the affection.}